“So powerful is the light of unity that it can illuminate the whole earth.” -Baha’u’llah

I am someone who avoids watching the news and reading the paper. Every time that I do, I’m so distraught on how 99% of it is all horrible. Either people treating each other awful or some politician or leader disappointing their constituents. Why can’t we focus 99% of the news on positive stories or events. I know the answer… fear. Keep the masses in fear then the less likely we will join together to rise above. Gratefulness and positivity lead to amazing things. It give us hope! Okay, so maybe 99% positive new is a little high, I do think we need to have some information regarding the bad things that are going on that need to be changed, but the problem is, with continual negative happenings lead to anger, resentment, and division.

Yesterday at work, I met a man who had a blister on his left leg, which led to gangrene then ultimately he lost his leg and almost his life. Was he super negative? Bitter? Mad? Not at all! He was the exact opposite. He was extremely thankful. He thanked me multiple times for being so nice and taking care of him and he prayed that I had an abundant life and he doesn’t know anything about me other than my name and that I have a family. What an inspiring man!

Today, I was able to see the beauty in two strangers. During my lunch break, I ran a couple of errands. I hit up the post office to drop off some stuff I needed to mail back (so disappointing when you find a cute pair of shoes, only to put them on and they are too narrow in the toes, read more about why that is important here). Right in the parking lot I went to put my receipt back in my wallet when it slipped and almost all of the contents fell to the ground, which included money and other receipts and business cards, etc. Shortly after I started scrambling to at least get the cash before the wind picked up, a man came by and started helping me clean up and stated “good thing it isn’t windy today!” and then less than a minute after a girl about 12 ran up to help me as well. I thanked them during and after our clean up.

Then, this thought came to me. I am going to start a Positive Happenings group on Facebook. This will be open to anyone who would like to post something that made their day or something that might have happened to someone they know or a complete stranger. Lets lift each other up and drag us out of this negativity.

I also, googled good news and came up with a list of other websites that focus on positivity in news. Here are a few that I found…

https://www.facebook.com/thegoodnewsnetwork/?fref=ts&ref=br_tf
https://happynews.com/
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/section/good-news

Good News, Inspiring, Positive Stories

http://www.dailygood.org/

So, instead of a recipe this week, I’m posing a challenge. Instead of cooking for just you, throw an invite to all your loved ones to get together for Stone Soup or Stone Tacos. If you haven’t heard of that, basically you pick a meal and then each of the attendees bring over one item to make the dinner. I got this idea from choir practice at my church. What a wonderful way to get together and unify! And don’t forget, if you’re on Facebook, join the Positive Happenings group. If you don’t have Facebook, you’re welcome to just comment below on anything that you have encountered personally or through someone else’s story about good things!

Blessings to you and yours! We are all one!

 

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Let’s get creative!

My best friend and soul sister is getting married in less than two months!! We may have not gone to grade school together, or even college, but I was lucky enough to meet her at work when she did her internship over 4 years ago. From the start, she was a ray of sunshine and such a fun person to be around. She has finally found a man that deserves her as a partner and I’m thrilled! A couple of weeks ago, we went back to her family’s home 5 hours away to attend her bridal shower. During our friendship I’ve heard much about her hometown and was so excited to finally go see it!

Before we left though, I was having a hard time figuring out what I wanted to do for her bridal shower gift. In the past, I have made many creative and home made gifts for friends and my husband, but lately I just don’t get that anymore. With us adopting, we are trying to save as much as we can so I decided instead of spending money on a gift that she may or may not use, I would create something.

I looked up some ideas on Pinterest- Love this app! And I finally decided, after looking for hours, what I wanted to make. Thankfully, my husband has a ton of wood out in his garage from previous projects on the house so I just went to pick one out. I wrote out the words on the board with pencil, free hand- one skill I am very proud of, thank you very much. I hadn’t planned on making the whole gift that night, but once I got into it I just couldn’t stop. I started it around 7:30 and finally went to bed around 11, taking breaks to get my daughter to sleep and water and bathroom breaks. While I painted, I put on old episodes of The Office and just got into the groove. I couldn’t help but finish it. Once I got to a certain point, I decided I wanted to present the gift to my friend before we left so that she could see it.

I’m so glad that I decided to stay up and finish it! She said she loved it! All I have to do is finish the bracket for it, which will be done this week. My husband and one of our other art friends have decided to make it a bi monthly tradition to get together to work on art, and after our daughter is asleep I will be partaking in this as well. I realized how much this activity inspires and motivates me. Something we all need is to be inspired!

Creating food inspires me as well, here’s a yummy recipe of the week! AIP Salsa! My husband even likes it 🙂

So…what inspires you? What gives your heart wings?? I’d love to hear all about it!

“Mawiage…mawiage is what bwings us togever today…”

It’s every one’s dream to marry their best friend. Someone that lights up your life and someone who “thinks the sun shines out your ass.” I knew at a young age, that I wanted my life to be different than my parents, who divorced when I was six. I wanted to have a relationship with someone who we shared mutual respect for and unconditional love and affection. This is why I married my best friend. This coming Sunday, we will have been married for 7 years. 7 rollercoaster years of both happiness and unhappiness. No relationship is like a fairy tale. There are hard times and good times. It’s unrealistic to think that you will LIKE the person you chose to be with for your lifetime. The important thing is to make sure you have more good than hard. Through all the tough times, there has been MANY, MANY amazing and fun times with my spouse. I’m grateful that the great outweigh the not so good.

After becoming a parent, things changed, like they do. No longer was it just me and my husband and trying to balance our lives together. We now had another beautiful being created from each of us for which we were completely in love with and responsible for. This was something that we had longed for and something we prepared for as much as anyone can. We were together about 4 1/2 years before we married and we waited another 3 before we decided it was time to start a family. Never, did I think that child rearing would take such a toll on us. We were the couple our friends and family were jealous of because of our closeness and the love and affection we shared. Not that I want(ed) anyone to be jealous of us, I did always hope that our relationship was something that people felt inspired to attain. Our relationship was one that I hoped and wished everyone would have. If someone is unhappy in a relationship and have tried everything possible to save it, that’s great, but if not, move on. You’re happiness and health depend on having a healthy relationship.

Recently, I woke up thinking, this “relationship” we have has to change. I can no longer go through the motions of pretending we are married, because it started to feel like we were roommates that sometimes hung out or were intimate with. I missed the closeness and affection that we used to have. So, we did something about it. What, you , may be thinking? We sat down and talked. I mean, really talked. Everyone knows and says communication is the key to a strong relationship, yet this was something that had been slipping by, other than the random event that our daughter did/experienced or politics or how annoying work was today. Other than our talk of our daughter, I felt like everything had turned sour, negative.

Well, like I said, I wasn’t okay with this anymore. Don’t get me wrong, it never got bad enough to call it quits, but it wasn’t the relationship I had dreamed of, how it was before kids. I’m not saying my husband was the sole perpetrator, I was equally at fault and equally to blame from my actions. We have talked about our relationship off and on, but it wasn’t until I talked with MY Health Coach, that she helped me come up with some great questions, which we discussed last night. We both feel more at ease and full of hope that our marriage will only go from good to absolutely fricken epic-ly amazing from here on out, because we discussed what is important for us and what we each need to do to become that couple people would aspire to and more important, what we aspire to. We made sure our dreams for our future are known.

Here are the questions:

1. What is your vision for our relationship? What would your ideal relationship with me look like? How would we interact, what would we do, what would it look like? Dream big!
2. What do we need to do in order to create that kind of a relationship with each-other? In other words, what are some practical ways, day to day, that I can build you up and light up your life and we can start working toward that vision?
3. What are some aspects in our relationship that you are willing to take initiative for and work on? What should our plan be for taking us toward that vision?

Not only, did the questions help us look toward our future and help us create action steps to get there, it allowed all of the stuff that was creating a space between us come out. This is so important! Along with some goals we have created, we decided to do some marriage challenges every day for 45 days. I found some cool ideas on Pinterest and will make up our own from them.

Now, This morning, my mom will be takour daughter for a long weekend so we can reconnect with each other. Fall in love with each other all over again and start repairing our foundation of our relationship again, so we can not only have a healthy relationship for one another, but for our daughter and future child as well.

So here’s to my amazing husband and father to our child and future kiddo. Thank you for your patience and love. Thank you for loving me through the thick and thin. Thank you for your hard work and your commitment to me and our family. Thank you for your sense of humor, even when things are gloom. Thank you for all of the beautiful memories we have created and the ones that will come in our long future together. I love that you are so loving and patient and caring and open to all of the things that matter to me. Thank you for growing with me and thank you for showing me how to be a better person. I love you forever and ever! Since our big talk, I’ve started falling in love with you all over again.

We’re going on a trip!

This weekend is going to be epic!

First, it’s the first time that I will be away from my family (daughter and husband) for an extended period of time… 3 whole days I get to be me! And second, it’s a girl weekend with my best bud! This weekend,  I don’t have to be a mom, not a wife, just me! I’m so excited! I’m not saying that it won’t be hard being away, I’m going to miss those two adorable faces like crazy. I won’t have to worry about anything though, except me. For this busy mama, that is something that I’ve been looking forward to the last few years. I nursed my little one until she was almost 2 1/2 so even an overnight at her grandma’s house was pretty rare and didn’t happen until she was about 2.

I know there are other parents who haven’t had a break at all for years and as sweet as that is, I can’t imagine that for myself. I need to have some me time and I honestly believe we all do. That includes our beautiful children. They need a break from us as much as we do from them. Imagine being around someone all day every day and how your mood begins to change. We aren’t meant to be in the same persons presence constantly and not expected to lose our cool (either parties) now and again. Or imagine the missed experience from being around other people and engaging in their activities. I know my in-laws do things entirely different from what we do day in-day out, so for my daughter to be able to see another perspective of how someone runs their day, is very educational. It’s also, another reason how I came to terms on putting my LO in daycare. The relationships and the interactions she is able to have outside of her home is something that, I believe, is necessary for her social development. Unfortunately, I could do better with getting out for play dates, which is in the works. If you don’t have children, herding cats is the best example of trying to getting out of the house for activities sometimes. I struggle with this. I’m sure I’ve written about this before, on how I don’t like to disrupt the schedule of my daughter, as in nap times. And my little girl likes to dawdle and I try not to rush her out of the door to get to where we plan on going, but sometimes it happens and it feels like I’m herding a kitten.

Anyway, back to my upcoming weekend… My best friend is getting married in September, and we are driving to her hometown, population 3200. This is bigger than the town I grew up in (about 800 people), which doesn’t really matter, I’m just looking forward to actually spending time with her since she has been super busy this summer. Her family lives on a farm and her mom has an amazing garden (I’ll post pictures soon). I’m excited to see where she grew up and meet her friends from her younger days. One of her friends is having a bachelorette party, so it may get a little bit crazy. I’m a little nervous that when I cut loose, that my diet is going to go down the tubes, but I’m going to try and not worry about it and do the best I can and when I get home, get back to what I know makes me feel great- whole foods, no sugar, intermittent fasting, eating when I’m hungry and CHEWING my food 🙂

Plan on how to get through the weekend without messing up my health:

  1. Remembering, it’s 3 days, and I’m not going to die if I splurge a bit. Actually, not worring about this and just going with the flow is much healthier than stressing out about how my diet is.
  2. Bring my own snacks. My snack bag will consist of Majestic Garlic dip, carrot sticks, sweet potato chips, sunflower/pumpkin seeds, berries, Raw Chocolate bar, some protein bars or
  3. Facetime each day with my family, if I can (they are maybe going camping for the weekend so might not have service)