A vicious cycle to break

As a mother, I want my children to succeed in life. How grateful I am that I now know that for that to happen, I need to allow my children’s light to shine down their own path. I also am learning that the most important way to do that it to raise myself rather than my kids. Yes, you read that right.
Our beautiful and pure children are here to help us heal by mirroring to us our behaviors, which are typically an immature response to our growing children (sometimes it’s anyone who we are in a close relationship with).
How do we expect children to behave a certain way when their models don’t know appropriate ways to react to certain situations.
I’m learning that the way that I react, or even worse when I try to control my child’s behavior the shit hits the fan. First with them and then with me.
What helps is when I have taken care of myself via enough sleep, enough movement(exercise), daily meditation and consciously checking in with my internal awareness of my feelings.
I know I’ve been writing a lot about this topic recently, but it is our job as parents to make sure that we don’t take our shit out on our kids. When we do this, it scares them, it shames them, it slowly dims their light (their authenticity) and then they become lost adults who repeat this cycle with their kids. Children are so impressionable and they know what they need because their intuition hasn’t been battered like ours has through time.
My teachers to help me see this beautiful wisdom are parents Dr Shefali, Janet Lansbury, Heather Chauvin, Rhea Lalla. The kids don’t need to be parented, we need to be.

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