Accepting the As-Is

One of my best couple friends has decided to adopt!! I don’t know if you’ve read previous blog posts about my adoption journey (the adoption didn’t pan out and it was devastating). I was so invested in adopting, however, it worked out for the best for us at this point in time. And who knows, maybe we will try that again or maybe we will foster some kids. For now, I’m just soaking up time with my baby (who already is 7 months old) and my 4 year old! It’s so important to remember when things don’t go the way you intended- to let go and realize that it didn’t work out for a reason!

Anyway, I called her a few days ago to check in on her because she recently announced on Facebook that she and her husband may have one or more kids with them soon! These two are such amazing people and I love them dearly! They have been trying to conceive and just weren’t able to. My girlfriend is a lot like me, she is a planner and a researcher! She found out about foster to adopt, which I knew was a thing, however I didn’t realize that you can specifically ask for this type of foster placement. If I would have known that, my baby boy would probably not be here, so I’m glad it didn’t work out for us- see it didn’t happen for us for a reason!

This is such an important lesson- accepting the As-IS! This has been really fostering in me the last few months with the help from Dr. Shefali’s course and doing my own work with meditation, journaling and moving my body! My husband and I are so thrilled that I’m able to let things go a lot easier now. It’s so important to be able to master this skill. Being attached to an outcome is stressful and can really cause a lot of turmoil! I used to get so anxious and frustrated when things didn’t go according to MY plan and when you have other people in your life, like kids, deviating from a plan happens more often than not.

So embrace the present moment and try to not get stuck in the past or present. Things happen for a reason and if we didn’t have the past events, then we wouldn’t be where we are RIGHT NOW. Sometimes things in our past really sucked, but we can’t change them, we can only let go and learn from them. On the other hand, we can plan and plan and plan and those plans may never come to fruition, so don’t fret about something that may not happen. Live life where it is NOW, in this Very moment! Put down those distractions, like cell phones, TV, etc and live your life. Especially helpful now that it’s warming up and being in nature is so much easier!

 

 

Join me this Saturday! Tea with Tarin

Hello lovely mama!

I am writing to tell you, about my new event! Every Saturday at 7:30 am MST, I will be on Facebook live, talking to you about health, exchanging healthy recipes, talking about parenting, and answering any questions you may have related to these topics.

I’m so excited to start this! I hope that you will make it because we have so much to talk about! Every week will be something new! If you have any suggested topics, please let me know!

See you Saturday morning! You deserve health, happiness, and abundance!

Lover, not a hater

Too often we focus on the things we don’t like about our body. If we continue to shame our beautiful one and only body, we will not be whole and will be unable to thrive. It may not be magazine “perfect” but why is that not okay? And do you really want that model body anyway? Not me! I want to be fit and feeling amazing but I don’t want to look like I starve myself or obsess about what I look like. I did that in high school and it was exhausting. I wouldn’t leave the house because I was too self conscious about my looks and then I got acne so bad that I was even more embarrassed. I also want to show my daughter that it’s okay to wear makeup sometimes and for the most part that it’s okay to have an imperfect appearance. I also do this by telling her stories that I make up (she loves these) about how being whole and conscious and loving to ourselves and others is way more beautiful than our appearance.

Instead of standing in front of a mirror pointing out things we don’t like let’s sit in stillness and appreciate all that our body does for us. Our bodies do SO much!! It’s one of the most amazing and smart things. So let’s honor our bodies with every scar and millimeter of imperfection because behind these there are millions of other amazing things that go unnoticed and are way more important than the things we don’t like.

So, what do you love and appreciate about your body? What can you do right now to show your appreciation to allow your body to thrive? What’s holding you back from investing in your life to show you that you and your body matter? It takes small, impactful changes every day to create a life full of abundance. Where can you start? It’s not easy, but damn it’s so worth it and so are YOU!! You have a lot of life to live and you deserve to feel great in mind, body, and spirit!! Who wants to sit on the sidelines of life when we can be playing!